Episode 159. From Self Destruction to Self Discovery: How Almost Losing Everything Saved Him, with James Date
Ep 159. From Self Destruction to Self Discovery: How Almost Losing Everything Saved Him, with James Date
In this episode, Ash sits down with husband, father, and business owner James Date to explore what life looks like after addiction—and how recovery has reshaped the way he moves through the world.
James shares how community, service, and genuine connection became the anchors of his sobriety, transforming what once felt like isolation into a life rich with meaning and purpose. He speaks openly about the power of vulnerability, the role of daily routines and prayer in keeping him grounded, and how embracing honesty has deepened his relationships at home and beyond.
Together, Ash and James confront the lingering stigma around addiction and discuss the strength it takes to ask for help. Through moments of reflection and gratitude, James reveals the quiet joy found in showing up authentically each day—a reminder that recovery isn’t just about living without substances, but about rediscovering who you are underneath it all.
Episode Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to James Date and His Journey
02:54 The Importance of Connection and Community in Recovery
05:52 Daily Routines and Spiritual Practices
08:58 The Role of Surrender in Recovery
11:58 Compassion and Kindness in Daily Life
15:01 Finding Joy in Service and Helping Others
17:57 The Impact of Sponsorship in Recovery
21:03 The Struggles of Identifying as an Addict
24:03 Behind the Smile: A Photo Reflection
26:53 The Journey to Acknowledging Addiction
30:08 Understanding the Roots of Addiction
32:54 The Ongoing Journey of Recovery
36:18 Understanding Alcoholism and Addiction
38:30 Rock Bottom Moments
42:14 Finding the Right Rehab
49:34 The Journey of Outpatient Recovery
51:23 The Importance of Vulnerability
56:54 Reconnecting with Self and Family
01:02:25 Non-Negotiables for a Fulfilling Life
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