Episode 165. Grief, Sobriety and Transformation: Rebuilding a Life After Loss, with Edwina

Ep 165. Grief, Sobriety and Transformation: Rebuilding a Life After Loss, with Edwina

This week you’re invited to listen in as Ash sits down with her lifelong friend Edwina, to explore what it means to remake your life in the wake of loss, motherhood, and big internal change. Edwina opens up about the sudden death of her brother, how grief reshaped her sense of self, and the quiet, courageous decision to question her relationship with alcohol.


She shares what happened when she chose an alcohol-free life, not just on the surface, but in her identity, her friendships, and the way she shows up as a mother and a woman. Ash and Edwina dive into the role of therapy on this path, unpacking powerful modalities like EMDR, and how these practices helped her meet the younger parts of herself with compassion instead of criticism.


Together, they talk about the fears that come with sobriety and the unexpected gifts that arrive when the noise of drinking is stripped away. The conversation shines a light on how retreats, community, and intentional healing practices can open space for self-discovery, deeper connection, and true emotional safety.



Episode Chapters:

​​00:00 Introduction to Retreats and Self-Discovery

01:35 Meet Edwina: A Journey Through Life

03:34 Navigating Grief and Vulnerability

06:44 The Impact of Injury on Identity

09:11 Finding Purpose in Adversity

11:01 Hiding Behind a Smile: The Photo Story

21:17 The Unfairness of Life and Loss

23:00 Alcohol: A Coping Mechanism

35:13 Healing and Understanding Family Dynamics

35:48 Therapeutic Journeys: Exploring EMDR and Internal Family Systems

38:02 The Alcohol-Free Awakening: A Personal Journey

42:09 Facing Fears: The Terrifying Decision to Quit Drinking

46:14 Redefining Relationships: Alcohol and Authentic Connections

50:21 Building Deeper Friendships: The Shift in Social Dynamics

55:12 The Power of Vulnerability: Authenticity in Relationships

01:01:05 Embracing Change: The Journey of Self-Discovery

01:07:52 Investing in Self: The Importance of Personal Retreats

01:12:30 Non-Negotiables for a Fulfilling Life: Community, Nourishment, and Movement


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Join Ash on retreat in 2026!

The Embodied Woman Retreat | Gold Coast | May 2026 

Rest and Renew Holistic Retreat in Bali | August 2026

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